However, there are several ways that parents can do for the children feel more comfortable in groups, namely competence to practice social skills and made him a shy child.
1. Use eye contact.
When talking with children, make it a habit to always use direct eye contact. Unknowingly, this will strengthen the confidence of children. The presence of eye contact when facing the other person will create confidence for someone. However, if the child is uncomfortable when making eye contact, teach him to speak, staring at the nose of his interlocutor. With some practice time like this, over time his confidence will increase and this technique is no longer needed.
2. Teach conversational opening and closing.
Make a list of sentences to open and close to various groups such as, people who have never met, people who are already known, a new friend, and others. Then train them to talk face each other with various types of person who might be met. Coaching ability and courage to speak directly with the opponent will be much more successful to reduce the embarrassment children compared with talks on the phone.
3. Train in various social situations.
If by chance you attend an event that is not too formal and allowed to bring children, take in the event he once trained to relieve awkward and embarrassed. Prepare the child to face the event by explaining the situation which is likely to occur, as well as about the person they would find, up to what you expect from your child. It aims to make it comfortable and more familiar with the situation shows that the children will be more comfortable and more daring when they already know a place and the event in advance. Then help him to practice when meeting new people, know marble table, conversation skills, to say goodbye.
4. Practicing with younger children.
Philip Zimbardo, a psychologist who often handle issues dealing with shame, recommend a way to overcome shyness in children. You do this by classifying children with shy children whose age was younger. Indirectly they will start a conversation and instinctively will make them more confident because she feels more mature and able to protect her younger siblings.
5. Use the method of "one on one".
Dr. Fred Frankel, a psychologist at the UCLA Social Skills Training Program, suggested, to overcome shyness in children, use the method of one on one as a way to build social trust. This is a method you invite another child to play with your child for a few hours. It is intended that they know each other, and perform various activities to enhance the ability of friends.