When your child enters the age of a toddler, she can be very difficult to handle. Children invited to start trouble bathing or eating. He can suddenly angry and cried louder as his appetite is not obeyed, and many other problems.
The toddler years can be both difficult and exciting time for parents. At this age, children begin to show a variety of intelligence. But on the other hand, he also began to appear independent. The obstacles are, they still have a limited ability to communicate and understand something.
"They (children aged under five) understand that they can do something," said Child Development Specialist, Claire Lerner, quoted by WebMD.
"This also makes them want to show the world and assert themselves in a new way, not a baby anymore. But the problem is they have less self control and not thinking rationally," Lerner explained.
With any combination of ways of thinking and behavior, it is not impossible that you often feel lost my mind to face the little guy. Moreover, if the words are often uttered is 'no'.
So, is there any solution to take care of the toddlers become easier? Here are some easy ways to discipline your child:
Commands and routines to make your child feel a sense of refuge from the world they see is unpredictable, "says Lerner." When there is something already done with the predictable and routine, it makes the child feel more comfortable and safer. They were so much being nice and quiet because they know what will happen, "he added.
In accordance with the advice Lerner, try to do all the activities your child on schedule, every day. This means you must have a nap time, eating and sleeping nights that are consistent. So also consistent when the time he could play.
If you want to make changes, for example when you have to go out of town, tell him since long ago. Prepare children to face this so they are not too surprised at the changes.
Consistency is also important in terms of discipline. For example when you say 'should not be hit', when your child for the first time hitting other children at the playground, you have to keep saying the same thing, if he did it for a second or third time.
2. Avoid Situations that Make Stress or Anger
When your child starts at the age of a toddler, you should take the time to understand what made him angry. Usually it is because they are hungry, sleepy and sudden change.
With planning, you can actually avoid this anger and keep her calm. "For example, you do not go to the supermarket at the time the child should take a nap, if you do not want kids suddenly get angry," said dr. Lisa Asta, a pediatrician in California who is also assistant professor at the University of California.
3. Think Like Childhood
Children under five have not been able to understand everything as is. For example, about how to behave properly and according to the rules. So when faced with your child, try to look at from the perspective of the child to prevent her tantrums.
"You can say, mother knows, you do not like baths, but you have to do it," says Lerner. "Speech that made him not be intimidated. We seemed to understand his feelings," he added.
Giving children choices can you do to show that you appreciate and understand her feelings. For example, when children do not want to wear shoes, just ask him what color shoes would he wear, red or blue. By having a choice, children feel they have control over the situation being experienced.
4. Learning How to Divert Attention
When your child is more than 10 times throwing the ball to the wall of the living room and he did not stop even though you've told him, it's time you turned his attention to something else. You could also try to play with outside.
"Parents should create an environment that can be conducive to the behavior of toddlers," suggested Rex Forehand, PhD, Professor of Psychology at the University of Vermont and author of 'Parenting the Strong-Willed Child'.
"If they do something that should not be done (such as playing ball in the living room), you should not forbid it, but try searching for other activities," added Rex.
5. Give Children Time Out
Time out is one of the foundations to build the discipline of children. Although this fact can not really apply when a child aged under five.
There will be negative implications if you give your toddlers time out for too long. Children will feel they are naughty. When in fact you want to teach it to behave.
If you give your child time out, limit the time is only 1-2 minutes. Do not also tell the child that it is time out for children under three years have not understood it. Use a phrase that more positively to call time out.
Lerner suggested for a comfortable place for children so she could calm down. Fix a bad attitude, but do not forget to give credit for good behavior.
"If you do not give praise when children behave well, sometimes they will do bad things just to get attention," added Asta. If you praise a child for his good deeds, most likely the kids want to do it again.
6. Stay Calm
When your child has tantrums in the mall, you've definitely tried to avoid the stares of passersby. At that time you will surely be easily ignited emotion and scolded him. Felt it difficult to remain calm, but with a loss of self control, could make the situation even more hot and your stress.
Try to breathe for a moment and let cool head. "Anger will actually make you worse and feel guilty. It's also not going to impact both on the child," advises Forehand.
While Lerner suggests, do not show your emotions as your little tantrum. Be like nothing happened. "Leave it alone attitude of the child. When children know that yelling does not grab your attention, he will eventually tired of shouting," he said.